What brings someone here
Parenting is one of the most activating relationships a person can have. It reaches into places nothing else does — your own childhood, your fears, your unresolved patterns, the parts of you that you thought you'd put away. And it asks you to show up clearly, consistently, and with presence, often when you're running on empty.
Most parents don't come to therapy because they're bad at parenting. They come because they can see the gap between who they want to be with their kids and what actually happens in the heat of the moment — and they're ready to do something about it.
What I pay attention to
Parenting patterns are relational patterns. The way you respond to your child's distress, defiance, or neediness is usually connected to how those things were responded to in you, growing up. That's not blame — it's the mechanism. And it's workable.
I draw on attachment research and IFS to help parents understand their own internal reactions — the parts that get activated, what they're protecting, and what a more grounded response might look like from Self-energy rather than reactivity.
What this work looks like
We look at specific moments — the ones that go sideways, the patterns that repeat — and slow them down enough to understand what's happening. I help you build the internal capacity to pause, to regulate, and to connect with your child from a different place.
This work is practical and insight-oriented. We're not just talking about your childhood — we're working on what happens next Tuesday morning when things escalate before school.
How we track what changes
Depending on what's present for you — anxiety, overwhelm, trauma history — I use validated measures to ground the work and track real progress over time. Change in parenting is measurable, and we'll know when it's happening.
Ready to take the first step? Schedule a free 15-minute consultation — no commitment, no pressure. Just a conversation to see if we're a good fit.