What brings someone here
Families don't usually come to therapy when things are going well. They come when something has broken down — communication, trust, a sense of safety with each other — and the usual ways of working it out aren't working anymore.
Sometimes it's a specific event. Sometimes it's a slow drift. Sometimes it's one person's struggle that's rippling through everyone else. Whatever brought you here, the fact that you're here together matters.
How I approach family work
Family therapy isn't about finding out who's to blame. It's about understanding the system — how each person's behavior makes sense given what they're responding to, and how those patterns reinforce each other in ways nobody intended.
I use an attachment-informed, IFS-influenced lens. That means I'm paying attention to each person's internal experience as well as what's happening between people. Often the most important work is helping family members understand what they're each carrying — and how that shapes what they can and can't give each other.
What this looks like in practice
I work to create a space where everyone feels heard, not just the loudest voice or the one with the most distress. That's not always easy, but it's the foundation. When people feel genuinely heard, the conversation changes.
I also work with families where one member is in individual therapy with me — helping the whole system understand and support the changes happening in one person, and adjusting the relational patterns that developed around older ways of functioning.
How we track what changes
Depending on what individual family members are carrying — anxiety, depression, trauma — I use validated measures to get a clear picture of how things are shifting over time. Family work is complex, and having concrete markers helps us see the progress that's happening even when it feels slow.
Ready to take the first step? Schedule a free 15-minute consultation — no commitment, no pressure. Just a conversation to see if we're a good fit.